This next year I could say it’s all about me, but what does that even look like? This past year, I have tried to focus on myself, yet my care for others has taken over, and I then neglect myself and go through the same pattern. People I called my brother turned out to not be brothers. The lack of maturity on their part and my enabling allowed things to happen that really shouldn’t have. I became passive in need to want everyone to get along. In 2020 I learned to accept losing some friends and that the people in my life, new or old, are all meaningful. Even the ones left behind. There is a time in season for those that have helped or that I have helped. I believe they would say the same about their friendship with me. I will say for sure that once you are friends with me, you will never leave the relationship less than you came in with. I have helped you in some way and added to your growth.
I may overextend myself for others, which I will continue to work on. I have been blessed to have friends who have built me space, a safe, loving space where I can be myself and speak freely when I have challenging moments. This past year has also brought me closer to my family and rebuilt some relationships with my brothers. I realized that I could not allow situations and people and their issues to steal my joy. If they want to throw a tantrum, leave those people where I found them.
So for 2022, I plan on mastering the skill of letting go. Without letting things go, we sometimes don’t realize we allow situations and people to steal our future.
Let it go in your mind. You forget those things that are behind you. What you did, what you didn't do. What you allowed other people to do to you. You can't erase it, but you can press towards a brighter day and know you are letting it go. Let go of disappointment, lies that they have told on you. What your mama did to you or what your daddy didn't do. Let it go, and don't let it still your joy or your future anymore.
"You may have been challenged, hurt, betrayed, beaten, and discouraged, but nothing has defeated you. You are still here! You have been delayed but not denied. You are not a victim; you are a victor. You have a history of victory." - Steve Maraboli